Porn Addiction - The Healing Begins
Are you struggling with an addiction to sex or pornography?
Do you feel that your life is spiraling out of your control?
Are you worried about losing your friends, your loved ones or your sanity?
If this is you then we can help.
What is porn addiction?
Porn addiction is the compulsive watching or reading of pornographic materials.
How do I know if I am an addict?
Not to be mistaken with ‘a habit’ an addiction is something you feel you cannot go a day without. Some symptoms include, but are not limited to;
- Missing events in your real life because you are ‘otherwise engaged’,
- You are paranoid about people finding out about your ‘habit’,
- The pornography content you are seeking is getting a lot stronger,
- You have tried to access porn from a friend’s house or your workplace,
- You no longer enjoy ‘vanilla’ sex with real people.
Causes of porn addiction
There are a number of reasons people get addicted to porn, but put simply, people for the most part become addicted to porn because of;
- Visual stimulation – for 90% of men, images are a big source of stimulation, whereas women prefer interactive chat rooms (Source: Porn Addiction Destroys Relationships, Lives from the San Francisco Chronicle).
- The need to relax, feel pleasure & escape – Many people struggle to find ways to switch off their brains and deal with stress so for a lot of men and women, watching porn is a quick and easy solution.
- Addictive aspects of porn - San Francisco marriage and family therapist Julian Redwood, who specializes in treating patients with pornography addiction, says: “The biggest problem is that there is a physiologically addictive nature to porn and all sexually addictive behaviour. People build up a tolerance and need more and more stimulation to achieve the same high”.
Julian Redwood adds that online porn is primarily about the ‘hunt’. People will search for hours on end to find that perfect clip that gives them that sought after high. Unfortunately this is often done at the expense of the addict’s family, partner, social and professional life.
The 5 stages of porn addiction:
Gene McConnell and Keith Campbell, authors of ‘Toxic Porn’, describe the 5 stages of pornography addiction:
Early exposure: More often than not, addiction comes from watching porn at a young age, this is when it gets it’s foot in the door.
Addiction: Next comes the addiction, it becomes an integral part of your daily life. You are hooked and you cannot quit it.
Escalation: You begin to look for more and more graphic porn, you begin to seek out porn that at the beginning would have disgusted you, now it excites you.
Desensitization: Eventually, you start to become numb. Even the most graphic, degrading porn doesn't excite you anymore. You become desperate to feel the same thrill again but can't find it.
Acting out sexually: Eventually many men make a dangerous jump and start acting out sexually. They move from the paper and plastic images of porn to the real world
“The greatest battle is not physical but psychological. The demons telling us to give up when we push ourselves to the limit can never be silenced for good. They must always be answered by the quiet, steady dignity that simply refuses to give in. Courage. We all suffer. Keep going” – Graeme Fife.
How can we help?
Like any addiction, recovery is a difficult process. But we are here to help! David Kavanagh is a registered systemic family therapist based in Dundrum, Co. Dublin. He has 12 years’ experience working with clients dealing with a range of issues under his belt. David has a keen interest in the impact of sex addiction in the Irish Society, and has been monitoring it for over ten years now.
What is Systemic Therapy?
Systemic family therapy is a form of counselling that focuses mainly on an individual’s relationships, group interactions and their interactional dynamics and patterns.
David has created a therapeutic program that involves Neuropsychotherapy that you can complete in the comfort and privacy of your own home. You can begin today, no waiting, no embarrassment, and no shame! David will explain this program to you in more detail once you make contact with him.
What is Neuropsychotherapy?
Neuropsychotherapy is a form of therapy that focuses on the functioning of the human brain. It also looks at the combination of mind, body and the environment on a person’s well-being, with a focus on neuroscientific research.
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