The need to relax, feel pleasure & escape – Many people struggle to find ways to switch off their brains and deal with stress so for a lot of men and women, watching porn is a quick and easy solution.
Addictive aspects of porn – San Francisco marriage and family therapist Julian Redwood, who specializes in treating patients with pornography addiction, says: “The biggest problem is that there is a physiologically addictive nature to porn and all sexually addictive behavior. People build up a tolerance and need more and more stimulation to achieve the same high”.
Julian Redwood adds that online porn is primarily about the ‘hunt’. People will search for hours on end to find that perfect clip that gives them that sought-after high. Unfortunately, this is often done at the expense of the addict’s family, partner, social, and professional life.
The 5 stages of porn addiction:
Gene McConnell and Keith Campbell, authors of ‘Toxic Porn’, describe the 5 stages of pornography addiction:
Early exposure: More often than not, addiction comes from watching porn at a young age, this is when it gets its foot in the door.
Addiction: Next comes addiction, it becomes an integral part of your daily life. You are hooked and you cannot quit it.
Escalation: You begin to look for more and more graphic porn, you begin to seek out porn that at the beginning would have disgusted you, now it excites you.
Desensitization: Eventually, you start to become numb. Even the most graphic, degrading porn doesn’t excite you anymore. You become desperate to feel the same thrill again but can’t find it.
Acting out sexually: Eventually, many men make a dangerous jump and start acting out sexually. They move from the paper and plastic images of porn to the real world
“The greatest battle is not physical but psychological. The demons telling us to give up when we push ourselves to the limit can never be silenced for good. They must always be answered by the quiet, steady dignity that simply refuses to give in. Courage. We all suffer. Keep going” – Graeme Fife.
How can we help?
Like any addiction, recovery is a difficult process. But we are here to help! David Kavanagh is a registered systemic family therapist based in Dundrum, Co. Dublin. He has 12 years of experience working with clients dealing with a range of issues under his belt. David has a keen interest in the impact of sex addiction in Irish Society and has been monitoring it for over ten years now.
The first step on your road to recovery starts today: Sign up to our online Mindfulness Course which will rewire your brain in just 6 weeks. Mindfulness improves critical thinking and enhances problem-solving skills in the Relationship.
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Systemic family therapy is a form of counseling that focuses mainly on an individual’s relationships, group interactions, and interactional dynamics and patterns.
David has created a therapeutic program that involves Neuropsychotherapy that you can complete in the comfort and privacy of your own home. You can begin today, no waiting, no embarrassment, and no shame! David will explain this program to you in more detail once you make contact with him.
What is Neuropsychotherapy?
Neuropsychotherapy is a form of therapy that focuses on the functioning of the human brain. It also looks at the combination of mind, body, and the environment on a person’s well-being, with a focus on neuroscientific research.
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newstalk.com David’s Radio Podcast: David Kavanagh shares his thought on porn addiction in this interview with Pat Kenny.
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